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I have a new bully

I want to explain why I was so loathed to remove a few dozen middling posts from the archives.

A person (I think you might be able to work out who) has taken upon himself to lead a one-man campaign of disinformation about me. I do not think this fellow is politically motivated and I do not think his actions are financial. My best guess is he is just super into being nasty or something.

I have, until now, been trying to ignore him. I have ignored rude emails, blocked him Facebook, blocked fake accounts on Facebook, blocked him on Reddit, silently ignored public blog posts*, said nothing about misinformation on his website, and have not reacted to vague (and incorrect) legal threats by physical post. In other words, I have a bully with all the playground level behaviour that goes with such a creature. Not nice.

* Actually that one is not 100% true. His post complained about hurtful and incorrect postings by both myself and people I run events with. So I made him a series of nicely formatted forms to report said posts because I had no idea what he was talking about. I sent him a link and invited him to specify what was wrong and offered to help. He refused to engage with me. So now I rather fancy this content he objects to does not exist.

Last year, he was writing posts for Thanet star so that I could focus on another project we were working on together (his website). Then a few weeks ago I started getting really aggressive emails claiming copyright violations and threatening legal action.

I ignored the emails and they stopped.

Then my ISP, the nice people who host this site, emailed me saying their legal department had been getting strongly worded complaints. That was when I posted up a request for feedback. It was not that I could not or would not remove the posts but that I did not in any way want to give in to bullying. Given the choice between redacting some posts and going offline I (very sarcastically) redacted them.

As ignoring my bully in the hope that he will go away as not worked, I can only try talking about it in the hope that he will go away.

You know me. I put up with a lot of crap to run this blog. The current (and dare I say, useless) leader of the council has spent a lot of time shouting about how much of a Labour shill I am and I laughed it off (because he was wrong). I stood up to the aggression of local blogging and while that means we have fewer comments here the usual angry (wanting to fight) comments are not found here. I put up with a lot of threats (from Tories) when I exposed how much the TDC chief exec was getting as a golden handshake (and I was right too).

This, however, is a whole other ball-game. This is not a political or ideological disagreement. This is not a debate over houses vs trees or left vs right this is just mean. While we accuse the worst of our council members of bending the truth we have never dealt with one who works purely in lies and character assassinations.

I am only human and I have no doubt that on reflection, years from now, I will see that there are situations I could have handled better. I doubt I am without flaws. Even so, I have to admit that I am simply not coping with this bully situation.

Both my bully and I are, or so he claims, working for the betterment of the same local literary scene and that scene does not need this crap. No one wants this.

All that is happening is my bully is damaging any good work either of us might have done or might do. There are no winners here. Nothing good will come of it.

I've tried reaching out to the trustees of the charity he established and will continue to try and reach out to them but so far they have ignored me.

HF, LM, DC, and anyone else who knows who exactly I am talking about. Please have a word with our mutual acquaintance and ask him to stop his campaign of hate. Please do it, not for me, but for the good of the writers of Thanet.

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